We all hold onto things…
it’s just a natural state of being…and we give ourselves permission for doing so in all sorts of ways. We tell ourselves we might need it later…..we haven’t had our wear out of it….if we let it go we will be letting part of ourselves go with it etc, etc.
Our reasons are many and they can feel very real…
However, surprise, surprise, we don’t always tell ourselves the truth!
We want to keep ourselves safe and that is a primordial urge, one that in times and circumstances past was extreemly valuable….our lives and the lives of those we loved most probably depended on it.
However, those times, thankfully, are long past for most of us, but the instinct lingers on. This means that we can sometimes, totally understandably, come from a place of fear…..fear for our future well being, and fear is a harsh master.
Feeling as though we will lose part of ourselves if we let once-important things from our past go, is a very common feeling.
But it is a lie we tell ourselves. Nothing can take part of us away like that. We are who we are and always will be.
It is completely true that we are shaped by our past experiences and that they all go to making the person we have become, but this does not mean that we will be throwing any part of ourselves away along with the old paperwork and, or keepsakes.
Things that we’ve accumulated over the years can make us smile when we look at them….they can give us that warm fuzzy feeling that takes us back to a happy place or time, but they can also cause us stress, make us sad and hold us back.
If you have things in your life that you do not love, that do not make you smile, that do not add to your life, but that are lurking somewhere in the back of cupboards, unpacked boxes or loft or basement spaces, then I would suggest that it just might be time for you to face your fear.
It is so much healthier to part with, once and for all, the things that aren’t serving you. Things that do not add joy to your life, things that do not move forwards with you as the person you are now in the here and now.
This can be scary to do on your own, but there is always help out there…..either a friend, a relation or a professional safe pair of hands.
Ask around and decide which would be best for you.
The end result of letting go of these things will be so worth the bravery of facing the event. You will feel lighter, happier, more in the now, settled and happy to be who and where you are at this moment.
You will also’ve made room, physically and emotionally for the new and lovely things to come into your life. Things that will make you smile and add to your life.
If you have something in your life like this, look at it, ask yourself why you would keep it and be honest with your answer….is there some fear in there? And if there is …… look to what you would gain from letting it go…and then do it!
It will be so worth it!
Happy “letting go”
If you feel as though you could do with some help with letting go, then why not contact me now and book your free, no obligation, half hour discovery call with me. We can look at where you are now, how that’s making you feel, where you would like to be and the possibility of us working together.