Letting Go Can Hurt..........

Letting go can hurt.... 

A couple of times a year we probably find that we change our wardrobes over, so that what’s in them and available for us to wear suites the season we’re in.

This is a great opportunity to part with things that we find we haven’t worn from the season we’re leaving or that we no longer like from the season we’re moving in to…… 

However....this is not always as easy to do as it sounds…….

I had a beautiful dress in my wardrobe that I spent ages trying to buy last year...

I had seen it...

tried it on...

hesitated....

and then when I went back for it  had gone! ( sound familiar? )

I then spent several weeks trying to re-find it. Which I eventually did, but the lace was pulled on this one so I took it to my lovely dressmaker friend...

(yes, she is still a friend!)

She fixed it for me but also decided to "fit" my beautiful shift dress at the same time!!!

AAAGGGHHH...just what I didn't want.

I then LOVED the dress but hated the way it fitted.....

I had tried it on so many times, but each time ended up wearing something else.....so, I knew it was finally time to let it go

and it hurt!!

I had invested so much time, effort and yes, money into getting this dress, how could I now possibly think about just giving it away???

Well, the truth was simple....

I didn’t like the way I felt when I looked at it....

I didn’t like the way it fitted....

I didn’t like the way it looked on me...

And...

I didn’t feel good in it.

So really what was the point?

Each time I opened my wardrobe, and saw that dress, it made my heart sink with disappointment and regret...

Regret that I hadn’t bought the first one I tried on which was perfect....

Regret that my friend the dressmaker had done what she’d done....(though in her defence she had thought she was doing me a favour)...

Disappointment that it didn’t look amazing on me...

So although there was part of me that didn’t want to accept the truth of this and even seemed to keep hoping that something would magically change......

(yes, I know, it sounds so silly when you say it out loud!)

I knew that the time was right to face up to the reality of the situation and let it go.

I feel better now that I've taken it to the charity shop,....

I don't keep looking longingly at it when I open my wardrobe, wishing it was still something it wasn't...

Parting with that dress, even though I would never've worn it, was a wrench

but so worth it....

As I now have a space in my wardrobe for a little something that will...

make me smile...

will fit beautifully...

that I will feel fab in...

Because, as the advert say, “I’m worth it!” and so are you!

Big hugs  and happy letting go

Lesley xxx

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